Updated: Oct 19
We all know that relationships are a massive part of our lives.
Family, friends, love interests - we deem these people so important we often identify ourselves through them.
That's not to say this is a bad thing seeing as they have a sizable influence on each of us, both as we grow up and when we're adults.
The people we surround ourselves with can make or break not just our daily mood, but how we view the world in its entirety, as well.
These are just some of the few reasons people are so important for each of us, but one question remains a mystery for many people - How do you attract the people who are right for you?
Let’s find out!
Get To Know Yourself First
You can't know if something is good for you if you don't know who you are and what you want.
To make sure you understand yourself on a level where you'll have the correct opinion of other people, you need to know the answers to a few questions about yourself first.
- What qualities do you appreciate and look for both in other people and yourself?
- What are your ideologies concerning certain essential subjects and the world as a
- What character traits do you want to improve and some that you won't let change?
- What do you look for in relationships, and what are you bringing to the table?
Some of these may not be as easy to answer as others, but all of them are equally important to find the right people for you and maintain the relationships you build.
Start from yourself.
Reduce The Negativity Around You
This is certainly easier said than done, but that shouldn't discourage you, really.
Whichever way we turn it, we don't have an unlimited amount of time, and negativity in any form is at the very least a waste of it.
This, however, can be a great motivator to start enjoying life more and work on making every day better for you and the people you cherish.
An easy way to start is by questioning whether a specific action or person is making you feel okay in this exact moment and in general - by evaluating an exact situation, you have a clearer perspective on what the thing in question brings you.
From that point on, all you have to do is stay true to your feelings - this might be difficult but is worth it in the end.
Be honest about what you're thinking and feeling, and make sure the person opposite you understands you correctly.
By removing some of the negative emotions in your life, you have more time to dedicate to your ambitions, plans, and current experiences.
Embrace Your Quirks
This is where the magic happens.
Everyone's unique, and everyone has their own amazing individual thoughts, emotions, and traits, which is precisely why life is so colorful in the first place!
By staying true to what you love and embracing what you want to become, you are pushing to make your dreams a reality and attracting like-minded people in the process.
Think of this - you have undoubtedly found it impressive when people are genuine to themselves.
This is exactly because they're unapologetic about who they are and what they believe in and build their very own paths in life.
Sure they might be weird from time to time, but they're honest, and because of that, you can always trust them and their actions, which is valid for their opinion and feelings for the people they surround themselves with.
Accepting and acting the way you actually want to is a complicated process, but it's what turns you into the person you aspire to be and that, by definition, surrounds you with the right type of people.
Once you have all this down, this final step is actually surprisingly easy.
You can start interacting with people that have similar interests to you and make new relationships from there.
Hobbies are great for many reasons, and this is one of them - going dancing, enjoying a sport, or wine-tasting are all social activities and most likely filled with people just like you.
And the best part is once you're honest about what you want, you waste no time in anything short of just right.
Sure, relationships can sometimes be difficult, and building new ones may sound a bit intimidating at first, but it only gets better once you start.
Finding the social circle that's right for you will undoubtedly make your life much more happy and easy while also helping you turn into who you aim to be.
By being true to yourself, you let everyone around you know who you are and what you're looking for.
Attracting the type of people you want happens only when you're honest, and that honesty is exactly the reason behind the magnetism itself.
With all of this being said, we believe it's high time you go out into the world and indulge in your uniqueness and liveliness - the right people for you will be there to cheer you on!